Principaux points à retenir
Tu mérites de te sentir valorisé, respecté et en sécurité auprès de toutes les personnes avec lesquelles tu passes du temps. Ne te contente de rien de moins.
Comment peux-tu savoir si une relation est saine ou non? Voici quelques aspects à surveiller. Un drapeau vert veut dire une relation saine! Un drapeau rouge veut dire de faire attention. Ceux-ci s’appliquent à tes relations avec d’autres ados ET avec des adultes.
Kindness and Support:
You are kind to each other. You say and do nice things to make each other happy. In a healthy relationship, people lift each other up and cheer each other on. You’re there for each other through good times and bad, offering encouragement and help
Bullying
They can be mean, hurtful, or try to control you. They put down how you dress, your culture, where you come from, etc. They might act more friendly when you are alone together than when their friends are around. They play mean tricks on you. They make you feel small.
Listening
They care about what you have to say and listen when you talk
Gaslighting
They make you doubt your own feelings, perceptions, or sanity. They constantly tell you that you're too sensitive or that you're overreacting.
Respect
People in a healthy relationship respect each other's feelings and ideas. They don't say mean things or hurt your feelings on purpose. You respect each other's culture.
Controlling and jealousy
Always suspicious about your activities.Controls you with threats. Control how much time you spend with friends and family. Sulks when you don’t do what they want. Threatens suicide when you try to pull back from the relationship
Safety
You always feel safe and they don’t make you feel scared or worried.
Secrets
They ask you to keep secrets from people you trust. They ask you to keep the relationship a secret.
Being Yourself
You can be yourself. You don't have to pretend to be someone you're not.
Keeping you away from friends and family
They try to keep you away from your friends and family. You feel isolated. You might feel like the person is the only one who you can rely on.
Boundaries
Boundaries are like personal space bubbles that everyone has. You respect each other's boundaries and don't pressure each other to do things you're not comfortable with.
Pressure
You feel pressured to do things that you know are wrong or that you're not comfortable with. They show anger or use threats to get their way. They refuse to accept your limits about sexual activity.
Apologizing
You both say sorry when you make a mistake. You try to make things better.
Hurting or scaring
They hit, push, or hurt you. Or they verbally hurt your feelings. They take or destroy your possessions. They hurt or threaten to hurt you, your friends, family, or pet. You feel scared or unsafe around them.
Pour en savoir plus
Consulte la page Relations saines versus relations malsaines de Jeunesse, J’écoute.
Si tu t’inquiètes pour un de tes parents ou que tu crains qu’il soit dans une relation violente, consulte la section La violence et la sécurité pour connaître des stratégies et obtenir des conseils.
Remarque concernant la sécurité
Rappelle-toi que si toi ou un autre membre de ta faille êtes DANGER immédiat : compose le 9-1-1 ou appelle ton poste de police local si le 911 n’est pas disponible (si possible, va dans une autre pièce ou chez un voisin pour faire cet appel).